Prevailing over being hot tempered may not be so easy but it can be taken care of as time goes on.
It is a habit that should to be dropped. Many who couldn’t control their temper are now victims of various circumstances. Many had wished they were patient enough then. A hot tempered fellow can kill and that is just the plain truth.
HERE’S A STORY
Many years ago there was a boy. He was smart, talented and handsome. although, he was very selfish and had uncontrollable anger issues, that no one wanted to be friends with him because most times when he got angry he said various hurtful things to people around him.
The boy‘s parents very concerned about his bad habit.
They carefully thought of what they could do.
One faithful day the father struck an idea. He called his son and gave to him a hammer and a bag of nails. Then the father said: “Every time you get angry, take a nail and drive into that old fence as hard as you can”.
Although the fence was very tough and the hammer was heavy, the boy however was so furious that during the very first day he had driven 37 nails already.
Day after day, week after week, the number of nails he drives in were gradually decreasing. After some time,it dawned on him the boy started to understand that holding his temper is easier than driving nails into the fence.
One day the boy did not need hammer and nails anymore as he now had learned to hold his temper perfectly.
Eventually he came to his father and told about his achievement. The father said “Now every time,you can hold your temper all day long, pull out one nail”.
Much time has passed. At last the boy could be proud of himself as all the nails were gone. When he came to his father and told about this, his father offered to come and take a careful look at the fence. “You did a good job, my son, but please pay your attention to the holes that were left behind by the nails. This fence will never be the same.
The same thing happens when your say hurtful things to people, as your words leave scars in their hearts like those holes in that fence. Remember, we need to treat everyone with love and respect, because it does not really matter, if you say you are sorry, the scars will still not disappear”.
A lot of us are like this boy in this story. We are so hot tempered that we flare up at even the slightest provocation. We hurl insulting words at people often times whenever we are angry not minding the effect it will have on them.
We most times don’t realize that words spoken out of anger are very painful. Although many people see anger and hot temper as ones nature but you have to know that a deadly disease that cannot be cured easily is a *UNCONTROLLABLE ANGER*.
Some simple steps of overcoming UNCONTROLLABLE ANGER are:
1. Do not be quick to anger.
2. Be patient
3. Learn to overlook things and also to forgive quickly
4. Learn about the characters of those around you and soon anything they say or do has no effect on you.