THESE THINGS ARE WHAT MOST WOMEN DO TO SOIL /SPOIL THEIR MARRIAGES AND LATER SOME WILL SAY ITS THEIR VILLAGE PEOPLE
FIRST AND FOREMOST IS:
FAILING TO COMMIT YOUR FAMILY INTO THE HANDS OF GOD
A wife won’t do well if she fails to commit her family into the hands of God regularly. Don’t make such mistakes of thinking you are in charge of your husband and marriage and you can handle things. Be prayerful, hand over your family to God daily. May you never labor in vain and another reaps where you have sown!
LETTING CHILDREN TAKE THE PLACE OF YOUR HUSBAND
Lots of wives abandon their first love which is husbands and embrace motherhood without looking back , denying him of love, care and attention as soon as babies begin to arrive they transfer all affection to their kids.
To sleep in bed, they put the Baby in between themselves making the man feel lost and the bond divided. No warm hugs, caress etc.
Please wake up
LEAVING YOUR FEMALE FRIEND TO CATER FOR YOUR HUSBAND
A lot of females make this mistake because you so much trust in your friend and then you say “My dear, please as I travel for this one week, help cater for my husband and my little kids”. By the time you’re back, your dear friend has really helped you by going down with your husband and expecting a child.If at all she has not eloped with your man.
It is not sensible to commit your husband into the hands of your beautiful and very active friend.
USING ANALOG TECHNOLOGY TO LIVE WITH A MODERN HUSBAND
In this age and time? Your husband is growing with ideas and all you can contribute is no other than sitting down at home to eat.
He is dressing like a guy with jeans and face cap; you are busy celebrating the fact that you are a married to a fashionista and a cute man.
Your husband is on *Twitter, Facebook, Whats app, Skype etc; and then the only thing you know about mobile phone is receiving and making calls.
Your husband is talking about stock market; you only talk about tomato market.
He’s talking about Forex; you are talking about fruit and vegetables only.
He sees you as backward, local and dumb. Soon you’ll begin to irritate him.
NEGLECTING YOUR BODY AND LOOKS BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED
Some folks will say “I’m married i can relax, after all who is looking at me.?”
Be you a career woman or an overly religious woman.
You feel sex in marriage is secondary, you deny your husband your body regularly, so he is sexually starved and intimacy famished. He has a Secretary, colleagues and girls in church who are seducing and flaunting their bodies for him to come to them but you have closed your legs and expect him not to lust after others. His mind will drift away from you towards them.
DARING YOUR HUSBAND TO BEAT YOU.
No matter how angry you are you shouldn’t block the door way, then dare him to beat you up and see what will happen. A Lot of women have done this and end up regretting.
LEAVING YOUR HUSBAND IN THE HANDS OF YOUR HOUSE MAID
Your maid is the one that cooks,cleans the house, cares for the children and also your husband?. You have suddenly become lazy since the arrival of the maid. All you do is shout and place orders. Soon your husband begins to feel more love and care from the maid, that maid won’t try any harder to snatch your husband. You are the one graciously giving him to her and also those that are in need of him.
EMPLOYING A HOUSE HELP THAT IS MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN YOU ARE
Employing a house girl more beautiful than you are is a major technical mistake most women make. Meaning you are using your money to employ a rival for yourself. Don’t be foolish when getting a maid. They act dumb like maids to you for the time being but when your husband starts sleeping with them, you will be shocked they are more agile and stronger than you when they start having fights with you.
DARING YOUR HUSBAND TO SLEEP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN
You will be making a terrible mistake if you dare your husband to sleep with another woman. You may live to regret it.
FIGHTING YOUR MOTHER IN-LAW FOR NO TANGIBLE REASON
You may fight your Mother in-law dirty and think you have won especially if she’s innocent, you will end up losing. Her son and herself have been friends and lovers for years before you came; may be before you were even born. She was the first love’ of your husband.
Her son cannot be separated from her, but he should love you both of you separately
she is more experienced than you in matrimonial battles.
It is true that a wife becomes a priority and number one and some men try to place their mums above their wives.
Apply wisdom and talk to God and your husband about it.
But don’t come in with an intention to separate mother and son. Respect a worthy mother in-law. Not all of them are wicked.
Not all are witches.
You meet a wicked one, apply wisdom and avoid her ways.
TELLING YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT YOUR SEX LIFE
When you tell your friends about your sex life and how your husband rocks you, you are indirectly telling them to go have a feel of him. They can size you up and know whether your husband is hot or not, whether he is sexually fulfilled or not. They may even know your Husband’s “turn on” and use it against him then grab your husband. Most women have carelessly lost their husbands as they boast to their friends “my husband is too sexually demanding, he is an expert when it comes to sex, he is a horse, he almost kills me in bed, he has a horse size” etc… Your friends will pick information like this and cover things up where you have been failing.
REPORTING YOUR HUSBAND TO HIS MUM
It looks beautiful to report your husband to his Mum, but the end result will hurt you. Most mothers will support their sons any day; children are always right before their Mothers. Seek counsel in the right quarters, never report your husband to his Mum unless his mum is so god fearing, honest and impartial.
EMPLOYING A FULLY GROWN,LADY AS A MAID
She is fully grown up and well endowed back and front very tantalizing. She dresses skimpily and sexily like an actress, cat walks like a model and that is your own house maid?
What a mistake!
USING SEX WRONGLY
Sex is supposed to harness intimacy and love but in many homes it has become the bone of contention.
Some women do turn sex to a tool of manipulation;
Some use it for trade by barter.
Some wives become commanders at home when their husbands touch them for sex, ordering the man around,
“go and off the Fan”
“go and lock the gate”
“go and check whether our children are sleeping”
“How about that money I asked you to give me?” Etc…*